bitty bits

video: how to take good nudes (full)

masturbation or masturba-shun… (part 2)

Q. My partner is masturbating, but not having sex with me. What do I do?  A. Last week’s bitty bits unpacked how to approach checking in with a partner who is masturbating, but not participating in sex in the relationship, where the ‘cause’ is personal and not a reflection of…

is monogamy, for you?

Q. Polyamory: myth, excuse, or saviour?  A.  Maybe 2 out of 3… but it’s definitely not a myth! First, some useful distinctions. Polyamory is when someone has multiple (romantic/sexual) relationships simultaneously - all with the consensual knowledge of those involved. This knowledge may have agreed upon terms unique to individuals/their…

dating app mishap…

Q. I saw someone my friend is dating on a dating app, do I tell them? A. The world becomes super small when reduced to a 5 or 10km radius. It’s inevitable to see people we know - with fewer and fewer degrees of separation  - on dating apps.   With…

is flirting emotional cheating?

Q. I love my partner, but I often get gratification from flirting with other people. I would never cheat, but I feel bad seeking this type of attention - I also get a thrill out of it. Is this emotional cheating A. I’m going to unpack this question in a…

no such thing as “the friend zone”…

Q. My friend likes me, but I don’t like them back.  How do I shut this down without losing the friendship? A. You might lose the friendship.  At least for a time. I blame rom-coms and fairytales for leading us to believe otherwise.   It’s not to say this isn’t difficult…

the joy of getting off

Q. How do you have a frank discussion with your partner about getting off, if they really aren’t getting the job done.   A. Many of us have been here - I’ve always thought of a lover’s tactics, as a window into what their past lovers have enjoyed (I hope!!!)  This…

gaslighting, flirting, open relationships - oh my!

Q. How should I react when I feel like my partner is gaslighting me?  I often get defensive and it only escalates. A. I’m not a psychologist, but if you feel like you are being gaslighted, then it is possible you are, or there is at least some manipulation going…

dating burn rate…?

Q. I struggle so much with investing time to meet new people and develop intimate relationships because life is so busy. Do you have tips or tricks to invest more time/energy in your sex life?   A. First things first, what do you want?  Is it casual sex, or building a…